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Only thing my car says is that I’m a weeb who can’t aim (Old OW Mercy Decal and a Sukuna Decal)

Yes! But it’s because our situations are very different. I don’t have a child, but I was already a preteen when my mom was this age. I didn’t have a deadbeat, abusive, drug addicted, , money draining spouse. I’ve cut off people (family) that I saw take advantage of my mother growing up. I don’t have a sibling who is a manipulative, selfish, lazy, money grubbing piece of shit. Fuck, I don’t have a daughter (me) that I’ve had to help for years while she tried to get on her feet.

I also have a wonderful mother who did what she could to set me up for success, trying to correct the mistakes of her childhood. My great aunt left me some money that helped with school (I’m still in debt, but could have been way worse). I have a good friend that talks me out of reckless shit, not egging me on to take advtage.

I’m also less social, so I’m not going out to lunch or parties and what have you. I live alone with one cat.

TL;DR: Yes, but is because I have less responbilities than my mother had at this age, and it’s cheaper living a solitary lifestyle with one kitty cat.

A main character who can do no wrong. They’re the best, prettiest, most important person. Rarely has flaws, or flaws that are actually “cool.” Like, the lead in many YA novels.

Or Batman, or Harry potter, or Tony Stark, or Kirito… There are so many! But those aren’t a problem for some reason. 🤔

Why is it gender stuff when it’s women but not men? Men and their gender is apart of their movies too, you just may not see it, like how a fish doesn’t see water. Take how a film is shot, how women and men are framed. You may not notice the camera assuming a het-male’s perspective by “eyeing” women a certain way because “that’s just house films are shot.” You may not go into a horror movie with the silent prayer that the male lead doesn’t get raped because that can just be thrown in there. You may not notice if every woman looks a certain way, and how no matter how old the actor gets, the female lead is still 25. Even in movies where it doesn’t even matter. You make not notice when a woman only gets to speak to and about men. You may not notice that one woman is usually tossed in to represent the entire female demographic because “they’re not the focus.”

But all those little details add up. Women have had men’s gender and their ideas and values soak into almost every part of society, even to how they value themselves. Men are not the default, and that means that they will have to go into some media knowing that they are not the main target and be okay with that.

Some people see themselves as the default, and any change is abnormal or pandering. Same thing happens in video games. Anything that brings attention to the idea that they aren’t the default audience is seen as a an offense. They assume these stories are an attack, an expensive way for people to say their way of doing things is wrong and therefore they are wrong, so they get defensive. In reality, it just someone else telling a story for another audience.

To them, the argument is, “why add more poc/genders if we’re all the same? Are you saying something is wrong with people like me so they have to be gotten rid of? How come it’s always me that’s getting removed? Why am I under attack!” They see the addition as the erasure of some, like, Schrodinger’s self-insert that would have been there if they didn’t have to force a" woke" choice.

Yes! I learned at the YMCA as a kid.

I am 😔

Thank you for the answer 🙏🏾

Do you have a specific field of study? Do you work for a university? (just curious, please feel free to ignore)

I work in insurance, specifically auto insurance. I used to work as a bodily injury adjuster, but moved to subro. I’ve been doing this for longer than I realized. My mom told me with a smile that I’ll likely be in insurance the rest of my life. I went home and cried 🤣

Pays alright though. And I’m (currently) able to work from home which I know is a blessing. Just wasn’t what I was dreaming about as a little girl, you know?

I think it’s the added warmth. Like when you deep condition your hair but put an extra bag or what have you to trap the heat.

What are the purported benefits of incorporating heat? Increased effectiveness: Incorporating heat into your deep conditioning treatment can help to increase its effectiveness, allowing the conditioning ingredients to penetrate more deeply and provide greater benefits to the hair.

Improved hydration: The added heat can help to open up the hair cuticles, which can improve the overall hydration of the hair.

Better product absorption: The heat can also help to improve the absorption of the deep conditioning treatment, making it easier for the curls to retain the benefits of the treatment over time.

Hey, cleaners are second most important, they must be paid super well, right?

… Right?

I’d be way more impressed by the Sega watch to be honest. I probably couldn’t spot a Rolex if you put a gun to my head anyway.

I’m trying to get myself together too (though not nearly as impressive as your method). I’m writing down everything I spend, from a soda, or groceries, to rent. I quickly saw I was spending, like, to the penny of my check, and saw I wasted a good $200 on just bullshit. I’m trying to put on my big girl panties and get it together. Whenever I saw no to something, I’ve been putting it in a savings account. Like, “eh, I can make dinner at home.” Okay, then that $15 for the cheeseburger that you were okay with is now going into savings.

My goal is to end this year without debt. School, credit card, all of it. Tired of it lol

Honestly, it’s been a great help reducing take out. It’s such a gamble, I’d rather spent nothing on a sure thing (even if it’s boring) than nearly $40 for a meal I may not even finish.

A lot.

The information was not hidden, he wasn’t even trying to hide it. It’s not like you had to read between the lines. Anyone who willingly voted for him is on my shit-list. I understand not liking Biden or Kamala, but I will never understand looking between them and Trump and thinking that, in any way, he would be the better alternative in any capacity. He is a facist, and even worse, he’s a dumb one. He’s easily entertained and influenced. He doesn’t care about anyone that isn’t him (or that he doesn’t want to fuck). He’s not president because he cares, he’s president because he can. I think anyone who voted for him was incredibly selfish, minimum. “He’s going to lower groceries.” Even if he did, is that worth it the oligarchy? Is it worth losing rights? Is it worth Palestine? Is it worth everything else increasing? Is it worth making way for a Dictator? Is it worth making a home for facists? Is it worth watching families be ripped apart?

I would say no, but many of my countrymen disagreed.

Lmao, yes.

He “brought it back” before he was even in office. And since no one looks up anything, I’m sure it did it’s job.