I think blind allegiance to family is a much more sad perspective

Family means nothing. Spend your time with people you love and who love you. Don’t spend time around nazi-apologists.

Did you throw the bug-out bag in the car and go? You can’t leave us hanging like that

To me this seems like a no-brainer. Don’t go.

Why would you go to an assholes wedding? I’m currently planning a wedding and if I invited someone that didn’t like me, I’d honestly rather they not come.

So. I’m not sure why you think you’d be considered an asshole. You’re two different people that aren’t friends and don’t see eye to eye. Why would you go to his wedding?