Crabs is women lobsters is men. I don’t know why. I saw a stand up bit that was similar to that and often wondered if they got it from there or if it’s like a franchise thing. The bartender said he had no idea.
The crab had a skirt on and the lobster had a suit and bow tie on. So that tipped you off I guess haha
I used to do this at work. It was based entirely on my confidence level. I compulsively apologized because I fucked up so much. It went away after I got better and more confident in my trade. Maybe try building up her confidence in areas you find her compulsively apologizing in. Does she do it more in certain situations? With certain people?