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  • That a lot of people have a problem with drinking and drug abuse and we have a toxic drinking culture doesn’t make it a good idea to join in on it.

    Many women are victims to sexual violence and domestic violence during their life. While these also happen without alcohol or other drugs, these increase the chance of violence significantly.

    If you are serious about the other person, stay sober.

    It is only anecdotically but none of the people i know had a club/bar/festival relationship survive. And when they ended, they ended with a lot of drama. One couple i knew briefly that went to parties together all thf time later accused each other of being violent.

    Meanwhile the people that met through shared hobbies and friends do quite well, or managed to end their relationships in a respectful manner when things didnt work out.

    But i guess not doings drugs and warning of their detriment means i am being “terminally online”. After all, all the cool kids do drugs. And the older they get while doing that, the cooler they get…


  • Saleh@feddit.orgtoFunny@sh.itjust.worksThanks bro
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    23 days ago

    My experience is that such relationships usually end badly and quickly. Also sleeping around is not curing being an “incel”. It is just masking the insecurity, lack of maturity and lack of responsible behavior.

    However if you meet at a bar and decide to meet for a date later, having alcohol or drugs involved in that date also is a huge red flag. That means the person doing drugs has issues with their emotional regulation. Also especially for women doing drugs with some relatively unknown men is increasing the risk of being date-raped.

    If you aren’t a creep, don’t do creepy shit. Involving alcohol and other drugs definitely is worse for everyone involved than being sober.


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    23 days ago

    Did you even read what it wrote? Nowhere do i say that.

    If you only strike conversations with people at a party with the intent of getting into their pants, you will not be invited to many parties. If you hold a conversation and then start to like each other, asking for a date is something different.


  • Saleh@feddit.orgtoMemes@lemmy.mlNever ask
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    24 days ago

    Your cousin coming to your home to visit or asking you to live there is very different from him coming to murder you and steal your house and tell the world how he is right to life there and your family trying not to have their house stolen is literal terrorism


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    24 days ago

    You should know when it is appropriate to ask and when not:

    Don’ts:

    • complete strangers
    • people who cannot retreat, e.g. cashiers, waiters and the like, on a busy train/bus in an elevator etc.
    • people clearly not in a space to socialize.
    • asking for sex
    • being ambigious about intentions

    Do’s:

    • people you held a normal conversation with before
    • in a space where they are comfortable and either party can leave easily if things get awkward
    • being clear about it being a date
    • public place with individual privacy, e.g. going out for a coffee
    • no alcohol or other drugs



  • Yeah about that: These laws get passed. They are enacted. People challenge them in court. The court strikes it down after a long time. Another slightly differently worded law with the same content gets passed and enacted. People challenge it in court…

    Or well, the Authoritarian scum just ignore the courts.

    What is needed is a strong resistance on every level. This needs to be brought to media attention, needs to be protested, the people behind it need to be public ousted, shamed and stripped from all power, the companies behind it need to be boycotted and sabotaged so they go out of business…

    Waiting for courts to deal with things does not cut it with authoritarians. They only understand collective power against them.