because most people don’t want friends. they just want people to listen to them whine about their life.

every ‘friend’ i have made as an adult has been nothing more than someone who wants me to be their therapist. so i gave up and I’m much happier w/o people who are constant drags on my well-being.

i’m so sick of like hanging out with someone a few times, then having them ‘open up’ to me about how they HATE their wife/kids/job and other weird ass shit that I have zero empathy for experience with. and then they think i’m an asshole because I won’t sit there and tell them what a bitch their wife is.

People do things for social approval. That’s my point. Social approval requires meeting other people’s standards, not your own.

And when your standards are not in synch with the people around you, it’s miserable and leads to conflict.

Where I come from ‘bettering yourself’ got you socially shitcanned. And that’s true for a lot of parts of the world and family relationships.

The mantra of meritocractic achievement is only social and rewarding among the upper middle classes, in the USA at least. If you existing outside of that, you people often regard ‘self improvement’ with hostility.

according to whose standards?

i like to read books and learn and try new things. i also of a lot of athletics, like half marathon type stuff.

a lot of people think i’m a massive asshole for doing these things, as me merely talking about my interests and lifestyle ‘triggers’ them, as in makes them feel insecure about themselves. also they were not making me popular, famous, or rich, so what is the point of any of it?

according to my exes i would have been a better person if i gave up all my hobbies, got a soulless corporate job to make as much money as possible, and then spent most of that money on them…

a lot of people’s desires/goals require other people being subordinate to them, including you. and if you don’t comply, they will think you’re a shitty person.

picking up litter in your local park, or just volunteering to trim the weeds in it, does make a big impact.

the problem is once you start doing that don’t hang around in the park looking for litterers who are trying to ‘ruin’ your good deeds.

i have notice in volunteer work there is a fine line between doing good, and then imposing your rules on everyone else and become massive asshole. this is why HOAs and such go so wrong. they usually start off with good-intentions but get warped into perverse controlling nonsense.

and if you volunteer and find out the people around you are weirdo assholes, just quit and do something else. i joined a community garden awhile back and left after 6 months because so many members were losers who were just shitting on everyone else’s plot for not being as nice as theirs or getting jealous that a plot 10 ft over ‘got more sun’. it was insane how petty and pathetic a lot of the long time gardeners were because they felt they were ‘owned’ the garden.

Nobody has to do it. They choose to do it, and then justify it will some bullshit excuse like they have no other option. They do have other options, they just choose not to exercise them. Often because they feel like social media, or MLM, or other shitty choices will be a shortcut to fame and riches.

Yep. Nothing forces anyone to do anything, people do this crap willingly, and then blame everyone else for their poor behaviors.

It’s called be a shitty human being.

If my ‘struggling’ you mean ‘i want to be wealthy but i constantly overspend’.

nobody doing social media posts is in poverty.

I don’t need to cope. I like my job. My country has always been shit. My life isn’t stagnant.

Welcome to being an adult. It only gets worse as you get older. Other adults do not want to hear about your feelings.

You realize it’s a futile cause and learn to live without it. Or you hire a professional therapist to listen to you.

If you are physically attractive you can also try dating. Lots of people on on first dates and use the date as a therapy session.

The Cloud sucks.

a lady in the grocery store once told me i look really nice today.

i have a cat and a dog and they both want to go out in weather like that. they love being outside.

neither of them want to cuddle in bed, either.

my cat isn’t noctural. not all cats are the same.

medical tech.

nobody wants AI fucking up their patient file.

yes.

feelings are not love. the yare feelings. love is the actions you take.

it doesn’t exist. but i work for a company that does real work. it doesn’t bullshit.

you break up with them

don’t forget you vote against every tax increase because fuck 'dem kids. you need to take out a reverse mortgage for your winnebago

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