Fair enough. It was actually for my batocera, so maybe. My desktop is nobara, so things should be similar to bazzite

Ok so no worse than Xbox controllers (and actually probably better if I learn to use wine). Good to know. I should’ve asked on here when I was looking

The ability to update Xbox controllers, though when mine dies I’m probably switching to a similar priced high end brand with better joysticks.

And on that note, I also miss being able to assume anything I want to use or install is available for my operating system. I was looking a month or two ago at buying one of 8bitdo’s pro 2 controllers, but it didn’t support Linux. I never had to check if anything was windows compatible, everything either was or loudly said it wasn’t.

Still not going back

Honestly, putting up a map of Mesopotamia as an art piece would be cool and I’m tempted

Oh, I’m finally an old and out of touch member of the community

It’s wild to me that that’s legal here. Devices should have to be carrier agnostic.

Yeah she played a stupid game and won the customary prize

I think a lot of people need to learn to communicate more explicitly. There’s also the ask culture vs guess culture dynamic, though I think it can extend past culture and some people lean one way or the other. There’s also the idea that guess culture is feminine coded in America and ask culture is masculine coded.

To a guess culture, outright stating your desires is imposing. You hint and if they’re willing to give it they offer. Furthermore saying no to a direct request is also seen as rude. In general directness is bad, preemptive offering is proper (and obviously they have to reject for fear of imposing), and hinting is acceptable. Think stereotypes of English culture. It’s a stupid social dance that I instinctively fall into. To an ask culture all that’s stupid, there’s nothing wrong with asking for something and it’s not problem to say no. It’s direct and blunt. Think stereotypes of American culture.

It’s generally quite good to be able to navigate and accommodate both, but as a guesser, asking is better as a default, especially in relationships. It’s awkward and difficult to learn, but it takes all the guesswork and ambiguity out.

Exercise and eating right actually do help. It’s just really hard to do without meds for me

Also trip a few times if your genetics agree with it. If they don’t, see if you can enter trances while meditating (it’s a special type of meditation). It’s good for you to feel one with humanity sometimes

Just don’t microdose while lifting

Don’t let your curiosity fade

Maintain open minded compassion for those different from you

Never be fully convinced you understand the best way to do anything

In disputes between the affected and the unaffected give added weight to the most affected

Learn to recognize a moral panic, and even if you have concerns related to it don’t join in. It’s the group dynamic equivalent of spiraling and catastrophizing.

Don’t drink your calories unless you want to gain weight

Damn dude, congrats! Gotta appreciate someone who’s clear about her intentions

The Dispossessed hit me like a truck, but I wouldn’t call it theory. It’s political fiction that’s subtle about it by using sci fi, but I think calling it anything but a novel/fiction does a disservice to such literature. It does that which all message based fiction aspires to: lies to you in a way that makes you think about the world and see everything differently. I love all of LeGuinn’s books that I’ve read, though I felt Omelas was overrated. I’ll also plug Graeber for easily accessible theory written in modern language for modern life. Bullshit jobs hit hard.

And yeah, theory matters, but only if you do praxis. Do the hungry care more about who you feed them, or that you feed them? Do your coworkers dream of a dictatorship of the proletariat or do they just want their voice heard in the workplace? If all you do is read theory, you’re a book club. The least you could do is mail some dictionaries and whatever other books to prisoners while you discuss the theory. Offer them some zines while you’re at it. What is in your heart and your mind are irrelevant until your actions reveal them.

There’s plenty, and they can help, but you ain’t gotta read em. They’re guides and ideas. Nobody ever told me I needed to read Proudhon to think the state’s bad, and usually older texts become more of historical interest than theory interests. When I wanted to understand anarchism I was told to go out and engage in praxis.

What can I say, I’ve been completely honest I don’t think there’s a winning move and this sort of posts are what I miss from reddit lol

I should clarify, it’s not your fault you know these things, but he needs to learn that enough bosses won’t be understanding that he should learn to curate the aspects of himself that he professionally displays.

Having good and amicable professional relationships is awesome. My coworkers know that I’m into bicycles, they don’t know that the bike shop I volunteered at was explicitly anarchist. They know I’m married, they don’t know I’m polyamorous. He needs to learn to find a level of sharing that can keep him safe, because elsewhere in the thread you mention he’s on the verge of disciplinary action.

You seem to have professional boundaries as well, and I think that yours are totally reasonable. A friend of mine is a manager of software developers and she has similar boundaries to you with her subordinates (she describes her job as basically being a kindergarten teacher for adults), but if you have to discipline John, that closeness will bite back.

And it’s good that they seem to actually be on good terms with each other, though she still may have given him the old pocket veto.

Have a conversation with John, make it clear you aren’t disciplining him, but attempting to help him in his career, because this oversharing is going to fuck him hard someday if he doesn’t get it under control. It’ll be a lot easier of a pill to swallow from a boss he likes and respects than from one who brings in HR on his first week. He should know you’re doing this specifically because you think he’s a good guy and you want what’s best for your subordinates.

For what it’s worth it sounds like you quite like this lady and like nothing you do is going to avoid a mess, so yeah have fun with that. I don’t think John is going to avoid pain here. Both from what you described of that crush and from what you’ve described of him possibly needing a PIP. It sucks, and it really sucks for you. But fr, act like he didn’t tell you about Jane and pretend you forgot. It’s probably the only winning move here even if it sucks. Well, that and posting follow ups. Posting follow ups as things continue is the ultimate winning move.

Try a live boot of nobara to see if it works for you

To answer your title: don’t shit where you eat.

Jane sounds lovely, and based on what you’ve said, it’s unwise but not wrong to go for her. Dating a coworker is shitting where you eat, but it’s usually mild.

John seems like a good kid, but he needs a conversation about professionalism. He put you in an uncomfortable situation by telling you he’s romantically interested in a coworker who’s been hitting on you. You probably shouldn’t know he’s a furry either. Hell, you shouldn’t know he’s so unhappy he’s looking for other work. He sounds neurodivergent, and that’s cool, but non judgementally, he needs to be aware that that level of openness with coworkers can cost jobs and possibly even risk sexual harassment claims.

Like let’s remove the you and Jane leg here. A generic friend of yours is telling you that he thinks he screwed up, he told his boss that the only reason he’s still working there is because he’s trying to date the head of another department. He’s asked her out, but nothing seems to have come of it, but it’s ok, they’re friends. Somewhere in this conversation he mentions that everyone at work knows about his mental health struggles and that he’s in therapy. How fucked do you tell your friend he is? Because I’ll say this, I’d be terrified that friend is misreading the situation with the woman, she’s afraid to say no (if they were actually friends he wouldn’t need to see her at work to pursue her), and she’s afraid to turn him down directly lest he hurt himself. And barring all that, he’s still given them reasonable cause for firing. That’s not necessarily the situation or even the most likely scenario, but it’s a plausible one.

I’m sympathetic to John. At my first few jobs when I was his age I was far too open about myself and my life. I never hit on coworkers, but otherwise relatable. It fucked me hard, and I really benefited when I learned to create a professional boundary and barriers.

Also, figure out your liability in all reasonable scenarios. Not from strangers on the internet. If John’s advances on Jane are unwelcome are you going to be in trouble for knowing and not reacting.

The GDR’s is exactly what I would expect out of German communism. “We have the two working classes: laborers and engineers”