There really is a bit of a catch-22 in my book that’s centered completely around self confidence. If you are proud of who you are, if you are living up to your ideals, you are simultaneously much more attractive to others, and at the same time you realize that you don’t need others - but they sure are the cherry on top.
I’ve only lived with stucco all my life, but in tackling unknown home improvement projects I’ve found Google lens to be a lifesaver to learn what all the pieces parts I’m dealing with are called.