Agreed on all points, and also would like to point out most of the people who want to “go back” are not the ones who were oppressed during that time. It’s no surprise that the people who want to go back are mostly those who grew up in the white suburbs and small towns, where it was simple and easy.

The oppressed are conveniently left out of those conversations. Where were the black people, or the gay people during those times? They existed, but in a very simple worldview it’s easy to forget that.

I don’t know of any millennial or younger who assumes there will be a safety net for them at the end of the road. We just don’t trust those in charge to keep it. I’ll fight for it, I paid into it and I want others to have it, but I can’t bank on it either

Right? First thing I’d do would be to message my spouse that I’m okay but to come to the hospital

I don’t blame them, they come from Reddit and expect the exact same. To them it looks like a feature is missing - when in reality it was deliberately chosen

OP don’t take the downvotes personally, it’s just that the question has been asked many times before

Thank god the emoji is there, it tells me that it’s funny and I should laugh!

Mmmm wood glue

Agree with this guy. If you like, I’ve done the tech job hunt too many times now, feel free to DM me your linked in and I’d be happy to give impressions on it

There is more than one spiderman

I honestly agree. The casting of the movies was perfect in my opinion. Mr and Mrs Weasley. Snape. Trewlawney, mcGonagle. Harry, Ron, Hermione. It was great casting up and down. They’re never going to get a cast like that again, so honestly who cares. That’s how I view this whole show. It’s just a cash grab, so who cares.

(smugly) I won’t take that raise because my tax rate would go up. You’re a sucker if you want to take that raise. You make more money by taking less money.

I’ve personally never cared too much. It’s what it costs to have society. I agree with others where I don’t like half of it going to the military, but other than that I view it as a good thing. I’m doing okay, I can afford to help others get by a bit. I also get benefits, I get our local transit, we get roads, I like fire departments, parks, walkways, it’s just paying my share so I get to enjoy those things. And if for some reason I wasn’t doing okay, I would feel okay using those safety nets too

Oof, coming from a family who also was casually racist like that I completely feel you. I don’t have any off the top of my head, but I know I let slip racist things I didn’t think anything about until I got reactions due to my ignorant parents

I think a good chunk of them are just confused by going to join-lemmy and not be given a sign up in their face. Sure, we know that about 5 seconds of reading comprehension skill would get them where they want to go, but the vast majority of users don’t have that. Look how many people will walk up to a cash register/till with a sign on it that says “credit card only” and then be confused that they don’t take cash. Most people don’t read anymore.

Maybe, but I believe in Occam’s razer. The simplest solution is probably correct.

The average user is incredibly lazy. Insanely lazy. Reddit has taught them that they should be just spoonfed content constantly with no assistance. People aren’t used to going out to find communities anymore. To them even these basic concepts are then “frustrating” and “complex”. It’s unfortunate, but that’s really how lazy they are.

They can’t go to the search bar, type in television, and hit subscribe, it’s literally too much for them.

This is another great example of pidgeonholing a decent idea into the wrong tech. Lemmy is federated, but is meant to be an open messageboard style of communication. This would be better suited for an actual chat/audio protocol, like Matrix or XMPP.

Agree with the other commenter. If she ever pulls that line with you again make sure you throw it right back at her. “You’re right, family first. That’s my kids and my spouse.” Maybe she’ll start to realize the family shifts as you age.

I’ve experience this first hand, and watched it from the other side. My mother is extremely “Christian”, and that’s one of her phrases there. To her, people helping her became an expectation, not an act of kindness. She was a single mom, and so people around town would help her out. Like our local appliance guy, he’d give her a deal on a new dishwasher - and then she would push her luck and ask him to install it. And then start calling him directly when the slightest thing might be wrong with it. And then for other appliances. And then for random handiman stuff. She of course never repaid him for everything he did.

Because he’s a Christian, and so was she. So of course he was “happy” to do it for her. A few people eventually did tell her no, and she would immediately convince herself that they were bad people and that she “had to cut them out of her life” because of the negativity.

The perfect character to put ina parody of LA. When you take the entire game asa satire, then Trevor is one of the most logical choices

Best way to stop passive aggressive behavior is to pull it out into the open. The back channeling cuts down once people are aware of what’s going on. But for you, even if you’re lying to yourself, just assume it didn’t happen, I know I conflate things way worse than what they are. You aren’t doing this regularly, you’ve taken steps to prevent it. We’re human, humans have issues. For a manager they just want to know that it’s taken care of so they have an answer for their boss if it comes up

It’s a difficult one. Personally I’d get out ahead of it a bit, maybe talk to your direct supervisor. They’ll go to bat for you if you give them the ability to. Ask for a 1-1 with them and simply tell them you’re sorry about it, but that you’re grateful that you have the flexibility to do so, and that just so they know “I had a temporary flare up, but thanks to the quick action of my doctor I’m medicated and shouldn’t be an issue moving forward”.

Personally I’m the same way, and worry everyone is thinking about me all the time. I usually end up bringing this up with my boss, and let him know that I’m always a bit anxious, but I trust that if something is a problem that he’ll bring it up with me, and that I’ll just keep going unless he tells me not to. Usually this clears the air a bit, shows that I’m definitely open to feedback, but that I’m not going to spiral anymore either. Once they did bring something up, but every other time it’s been “Don’t worry, you’re doing great, I’ll let you know if that changes”.

Let’s put it this way, if you find out that you overstepped in some way in a meeting where they’re firing you, they failed you. Firing should be the absolute last option after a long line of chats, one on ones, and finally a PIP or something similar. If a firing is a surprise, your direct manager failed you.