

Mathematicians are shitty communicators who like feeling special because they can understand their obscure language.
I’m a programmer and in this field there have been tons of books published, conference talks, and heated internet arguments about how to make your code as readable as possible: formatting, function length, naming of variables and functions, keeping number of cross references low, how to document intent, etc. Mathematicians do none of that - it’s all single-character names (preferably from the Greek alphabet to complicate it further) and they rarely communicate intent before throwing formulas at you. You can easily tell when a mathematician has written code because it’s typically hot garbage in terms of readability.
Practicing loving-kindness meditation and trying to find an interest in the lives of others. When you feel a genuine interest in learning about the lives of the people you meet and are not worrying about your own self-image, people are less scary and easier to talk to.
I used to be afraid of people thinking less of me for asking stupid questions, but now I don’t care so much about what they think about me. I come from a mindset of compassion rather than fear. It turns out that people generally prefer dumb but interested over insecurity.