Why or why not?

  • dandelion (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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    3 days ago

    that’s not exactly what I’m asking - but it’s informative that gentials come up (makes sense in the context of dating)

    I tend to think of being trans as more than just gential situation in terms of dating - if the person is not passing for example, you might get stared at as a couple in public, the stigma that is directed at them might also impact you. Their life experiences- the harassment, the unemployment, etc. might impact you. For me, these even might be more important factors than their genitals.

    (I tend to be able to see a female penis as female, it’s usually soft and flaccid, like an oversized clit - it’s not as “male” as people tend to think, which can be a disappointment for a certain subset of people who want the female penis to perform and fill the role a male penis usually does.)

    • ComradeSharkfucker@lemmy.ml
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      3 days ago

      I only mentioned genitals because it seems to matter to most people. I really don’t care tbh, I could date someone with zero sex involved if I wanted. As for social stigma, that shit can suck but it wouldn’t stop me from dating them.

    • MML@sh.itjust.works
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      3 days ago

      Uh so if I showed you a picture of a penis you claim to be able to know if it’s owners gender? Doesn’t that kind of go against your beliefs?

      But yes it’s genitals for me